I'm not quite sure how to convey the way I'm feeling right now without it sounding bad. We have been in our current ward for 2 years next month and I love our new ward. The people are great and I've made a lot of friends. But the friendships I have formed are different from others that I have formed in the past. In previous wards we had friends who loved to hike, camp, play sports, play games and who we connected with almost too perfectly. Where we are now we have friends who like to play games but that's about it. We haven't found any couples who like to do active things that we've really connected with. There are plenty of couples where one spouse loves the outdoors.
I don't know, I'm just feeling homesick for our friends in other wards. We live closer to friends we made in our college ward who we have gone camping with once but not in our ward. It's just really been bugging me lately. I also have had girl friends who we've gone shopping together. And it's not that our ward has all these horrible people in it. There aren't any horrible people in our ward. They are all amazing people, but they just don't share our interests. We've always had at least one couple that we really connected with. Argh! I really don't know how to word this! Right now I'm debating whether or not to even post it because I don't want people to feel bad.
Do we smell or something?? I shower and wear deodorant everyday. Do I need to change scents?
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Haha, I can't give you any advice on the deodorant since we live 3000 miles away (but I can't smell you from here!) but I can totally relate.
I feel like I am in the EXACT same position. We have a great ward. We have been here 3 years. We have great friends and we love them. But I do not have any close friends here. There is no one here that I feel like I am really connected to. The one person I am pretty close to is moving next month. She is the only person who has ever really called me just to say hi and chat. Now I think I am making it sound like I don't have any friends, which is not the case. I do, but none of them are my close friends. It is always in a big group eating or playing games. Nothing active. So, pretty much this whole rant is pointless except to say I empathize because obviously I don't have any advice. I need some too! Can you smell me?
i feel the same way with where i live. i haven't been able to make the close connections that i had with my last ward and it starts to feel kind of lonely at times. i know what you're going through. my problem was i didn't want to make friends cuz i only expected to be here for a year (and i didn't want it to be difficult to leave with any attachments to people) and then randy didn't get a job. now i'm kicking myself for not trying to build relationships earlier. it's not fun
Roxanne- I don't think I can smell you. haha. I wish you guys lived closer! We miss you and Joe even though we never really got to hang out with you guys as married couples.
Tasha- We miss you guys! And it is hard when you know you are going to move. Some of the people in our ward that we've wanted to get to know have moved out because they were in apartments. Since we're in a house we know we'll be around for a good while. You guys want to go camping this summer?? We totally should!
Just sent my response to your facebook. I didnt want it to be readable to all.
Just so you know I've been meaning to write you for quite some time, but with the kids lately, well you understand.
When Aaron and I first got married we were in 3rd Ward. We had a few friends that we would talk to on Sundays if we bumped into them, but that was all.
When we moved out of 3rd and into 2nd ward we were hoping that whatever plagued us in our old ward wouldn't follow, but it seems to have followed right along with us. I'm not sure what the deal is. I've always tried to be pleasant and polite, not sticking my nose into anyone elses business, but for whatever reason, we have very few even less friends in this ward.
We have thought about moving, not for that reason, but moving in general, but with our luck...
We must be lame or something.
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